You will enjoy this insightful article by Aileen Nobles. Note how the
creative language addresses many aspects.
EFT did wonders to release the anger and pain of a teenager stuck
between two parents. Each parent although separated from each
other, used "Angie" to try and get her to side with them. Most of
their arguments had been in her presence.
Angie suffered from Ulcerated Colitis and Asthma.
She felt a lot of pain and bewilderment, and was sick and tired of
being a pawn.
Now her father was getting married to another woman, and Angie
wanted to go to the wedding. Her mother was so angry and jealous,
that she didn't want her daughter to go.
Anger erupted between mother and daughter, and it was time to
start tapping.Her anger was a 10.
We started with the basic recipe:
"Its not my responsibility whether my mother and father get
along with each other."
- "I don't want to be in the middle of their arguments"
"I don't want to make these annoying choices, having to side
with one or the other."
She told me she was feeling her sadness and anger in her stomach
and head. She had also been suffering from headaches.
I had her close her eyes and imagine she was talking to her parents
as she tapped on her karate point.
"Why do I have to make these annoying choices and you guys
"I hate when you fight and I get stuck in the middle, its not
fair.but I'm still a great kid."
"I hate being stuck in the middle of a fight and it's not fair and
nobody seems to care about that."
- "I hate being in the middle of fights, I have to swallow a lot of
this anger and sadness."
"I have so much garbage inside of me that comes out
uncontrolled in the toilet"
"All the fear I feel when you fight, and all of these emotions
whirling around inside me go right into my stomach, and I just need
to get rid of it"
- "I hate hearing you fight, your voices get raised and you say
mean things to each other and you do it in front of me!!! You are
my parents but you don't seem to know any better."
We went back to the basic recipe, including the top of the head and
the inside of the wrist.
- "They behave like naughty children, and I'm the parent.
Something's backwards in this picture. No wonder my insides don't
know if they are coming or going."
- "Why do they behave that way. I hate being in the middle, and
I've stuffed all this fear and anger inside of me, and its messing up
my stomach and my head and I feel like a pressure cooker that's
going to explode."
- "This garbage can of emotions is in my head and my stomach
and comes out uncontrolled in the toilet. That's where it belongs,
but I'd like to have more control over it."
- "All this pressure in my head gives me a headache. I wish they
would fight when I'm not there. They are so immature. I am more
mature than they are about this issue and something's wrong with
this picture. But I'm a great person anyway."
- "I hate it when I hear them fight and I don't want to react in the
same way if I hear it again, and its probably going to happen again,
but I would like to handle it differently."
- "I want to let go of my fear. I used to be afraid when I was little
that they would fight and then divorce.and I was so afraid, and
they did fight and divorce, so I don't want to hold on to that fear
anymore as its already happened."
- "Don't want this fear, letting it go"
- "I'm ready to have more control on how I release my pain and
- "I'm so angry at dad for not listening, I'm angry at both of
- "I'm so filled with anger at both of them, but I'm still a great
person. Even if I'm angry at them because they are so immature,
I'm a terrific person."
- "I'd like to release all this anger from my stomach, I'd like to
release all this anger from my head, I am now choosing and
allowing myself to release these emotions from my colon".
"Wanting my parents to be different isn't going to change them,
if I could change them by wanting I'd want more than you could
believe, but wanting it isn't going to change them, but I can change
me. I can let go of all my negative emotions and reactions."
We discussed the idea of telling her parents not to argue in front of
"I'm letting go of my anger, I've done a great job of holding on
to it, now I want to do a great job of letting go of it. Letting go of
my pain, I hate being used and I won't allow it any more. I am
changing how I feel. They are who they are, and they are trying to
do their best, but its not very good."
" I can see that and I know that. They both love me and they
are trying to do their best, they sometimes do a terrible job."
"Letting go of my pain so I can feel better, I choose it, I allow it I
I tested each of these statements as she said them. She was
congruent on all levels.
We tapped on residual anger, pain and fear, and being fed up with
"I'm releasing my expectations that they be other than they are.
I now speak up for myself and choose not to be in the middle of
their arguments anymore
I had Angie imagine her mother's point of view.
She tapped on
- "Mother only sees her own point of view. "
"I'm old enough to make my own decisions. I'm not betraying
my mother by going to Dad's wedding."
"I am becoming stronger and more powerful right now, I am in
control of my life and my bowel movements."
"It is safe to make my own decisions."
"I love my mother and father in spite of the way they act."
- "I now allow my body to heal itself, I am in control."
Angie says after speaking up, her parents are trying their best to
not argue when she is around. If they do, she immediately speaks
up, and tells them that she is leaving the room. Her colitis and
headaches have disappeared, and she has a lovely glow about her
now that she feels so much better about herself. We got rid of her
asthma in a separate session.