PANIC AND MOLESTATION
Hi Everyone,Study this insightful case by Aileen Nobles and learn how the "EFT Art of Delivery" can transform a client. Near the end of her well written article Aileen says this about her client, "In her next session she mentioned that she had not experienced any breathing problems, and could hardly be bothered to think about the molestations. She said it just wasn't important any more."
By Aileen Nobles
It was very rewarding to see these changes take place as EFT neutralized the painful memories of family sexual abuse. When "Angela" first contacted me she was incapacitated with pain in her arm and shoulder, and also suffered from panic attacks along with a feeling of helplessness. The panic attacks were accompanied by her inability to take a deep breath.
When she first started with me she was aware that something happened when she was young but it was blanked out when she tried to recall the situations. She knew it was connected to her cousin, as she would get sick to her stomach if she had to see him. We started tapping.
Even though I don't know what happened I'm quite wonderful anyway.
Even though I know it was bad.
Even though I'm too scared to remember, perhaps I can remember just enough for me to be OK with it.
The first session was gentle as she seemed so fragile, and it allowed her to feel safe to explore further. When it was time for Angela's second session she had remembered a situation from her childhood wherein she remembered waking up in bed with a man on top of her. She tried to scream but he had his hand over her mouth. As she recounted this situation she only saw it happening from the back. She couldn't recall faces, or hear any sounds. She described it as if she was in a tunnel. She was at a level of intensity of 10 out of 10 as she told me this much. We tapped.
This man is on top of me, I am so afraid.
I can't breathe.
Where's my mother?
I'm so scared and hurting.
EFT decreased the intensity of this situation, and she was so surprised to be able to articulate it. She was very sure there were other situations of abuse, but could not recall them. When she tried she started to get panicky. The pain in her arm and shoulder had gone down to about a 4 on a scale of 0 to 10.
During the next session, Angela had remembered another part of her trauma. This time she was able to hear words and sounds, and have flashes of seeing their faces. She had recalled an attack in a bedroom with her cousin and his friend. The cousin was babysitting Angela and her sister. Angela was eight and her sister was five. She remembered one of them holding her arms as the other one molested her. Again hands were over her face smothering her screams. They also told her that if she told anyone they would really hurt her.
As she recounted this episode the pain in her arm and shoulder went up to a 10, and her breathing was very shallow. We tapped.
I'm so little and afraid and I don't know why they are doing this to me.
No one's helping me.
I'm so scared.
I want to hit him and get him off me.
I don't want to carry these memories with me.
I want to let go of this fear.
I'm sick to my stomach and I can't breathe.
Get off me and leave me alone, I'm just a little girl.
I hate you.
I want to let this go.
I want to hit you.
I can't breathe.
But that happened a long time ago.
It was bad enough that it happened then, without me carrying it with me all these years.
Perhaps the pain in my arm is connected with the pain of being violated and not being able to hit and protect myself.
I don't want Andy (cousin) in my arm.
I don't want painful memories in my arm or anywhere in my psyche.
I want to detach from these traumatic memories.
It's true it happened, but it's time to let it go.
It's over now.
I can begin healing myself.
The pain in Angela's arm was down from a 10 to a 2. In our next session Angela was furious, she said she had been angry all week particularly at her mother. She remembered going to her mother crying and shaking, to tell her what had happened. She was so scared because of her cousin's threats, but she did it anyway. Her mother told her to stop making up stories and to go and play. Her arm was at a 10 again and during the week she had had another panic attack. The mother was physically abused by Angela's father and was very afraid and ineffectual. We tapped.
Even though my mother didn't save me from the bad men, I can still learn to love and accept myself anyway. (She couldn't say I love and accept myself.)
I feel so betrayed.
My mother is meant to protect me, and she didn't.
I understand even though my mother was meant to protect me, she couldn't even protect herself from her own husband.
My mother was damaged.
She didn't know how to be a good mother.
I know she loved me the best she could.
She lived in fear and was constantly abused.
I understand this intellectually but not emotionally.
I'd like to be able to forgive her for not being the way I want her to be.
I can't forgive her.
Perhaps I can.
No I can't.
It would be a release for me if I could.
It may be possible, but either way I'm quite wonderful anyway.
I am ready to be at peace with this situation.
The pain was down and she was relaxed and breathing well. Next we did the movie technique on different situations of molestation that had surfaced. I had her tap as she recounted the feeling of being smothered and not able to breath and wanting to strike out as she relived the experience. When the intensity peaked we tapped on that particular part. After about 15 minutes, it was amazing to hear the difference in the way she recounted detailed accounts of abuse. Her emotional intensity went down on every instance to a level between 0 and 1. Her arm and shoulder pain were gone!
In her next session she mentioned that she had not experienced any breathing problems, and could hardly be bothered to think about the molestations. She said it just wasn't important any more. She still had some anger at her mother and of course at her father. We tapped on both parents until she could forgive them for not being "perfect." She recognized they were very damaged and actually felt sorry for them
She has been pain free and panic free for over 4 months now. Once again EFT changes a life.